Essay in Honeysuckle Mag

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Over the past two years I’ve kept my published work separate from this site. I think the main reason I did that is because I wanted to keep this focused on things outside of dating and relationships and a lot of my work touches on that. But since I want to focus on my writing more this year it seems to only make sense to share the links to my work here and let you choose whether to read or not to read.

Here is an essay I wrote about finding my grandmother’s diary and what she reported dating to be like in her 70’s. You can read it on Honeysuckle Magazine.

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Mindful Monday: Write Every Day

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The past year or so I found it hard to write on a regular schedule. I felt blocked, which was hard since writing is something that I love. So I decided to get into the habit of writing a bit every day this month, but not put rules on what type of writing or how long to spend on it each day.

Sometimes I write blog posts, sometimes I work on essays or assignments from editors, and some days I just journal or work on a pitch letter. Some days I don’t want to write, but I feel it’s better to at least practice than just wait for the muse to strike. It’s better to be prepared for inspiration when it strikes by working on your craft.

If you are thinking about writing and feel stuck here are some books I’d recommend:

The Artist’s Way by Julie Cameron
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Only As Good As Your Word: Writing Lessons from My Favorite Literary Gurus by Susan Shapiro
How to Blog for Profit: Without Losing Your Soul by Ruth Soukup

January Challenges

IMG_5989Last year I did a 365 project around cooking. It was fun, but I wanted to do something different this year. I wanted to focus on a number of things I want to achieve but do it in baby steps. These aren’t really goals they’re challenges. I plan on tackling five challenges each month. Sometimes I may repeat challenges if I don’t feel I did the challenge justice. Sometimes I may do something related to a previous month’s challenge even if I want to push myself further.  I may do challenges that are unrelated to other ones. We’ll see. I have ideas, but I’m allowing myself to be flexible. I’ll go into these specific challenges in more depth in other posts this month but they are:

1. Duolingo: Practice my French every day this month.

2. Read 4 Books: I have a challenge to read 50 books by the end of the year so I want to get into a good rhythm.

3. Eat Whole Food: The holidays are horrible for me. It’s sugar central! I want to get back to basics and detox in a healthy way.

4. Write Every Day: I used to write every day whether it was a blog post, working on an essay to submit for publications, or just journal/brainstorm.  I want to get back to that place.

5. Plan for 2018: I want to plan out what I want to work on and towards this year.

 

Mindful Monday: Habits vs Resolutions

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In January we tend to start the year of with lofty resolutions that if you’re like me and most people you tend to abandon by February. This year I’m saying adios to resolutions and instead focusing on habits that I want to improve on this and every year. So here are my goals for 2017:

Be healthier: I think the most common resolution around the new year revolves around weight loss and health. I don’t want to focus on a number on the scale, how many gym visits I fit into a week, or how much I can bench press. Instead, I think better goals are to be active and know when my body needs a rest day, eat good and nutritious food that I enjoy, and most importantly feel good about my body and how I look. To get to that place it’s not about being “perfect” it’s about being hydrated, wearing clothes that make me feel great, and getting the proper amount of sleep.

Cook more: I’m a foodie and I love going to restaurants and trying new dishes and cuisines. Even more satisfying is expanding my own repertoire in the kitchen. I have a lofty goal of making 365 new (to me) dishes this year. I’ve made six so far so we’ll see how this goes.

Save more and spend smarter: The past few years I’ve had some things come up where I’ve had to dip into savings. I want to have a cushier net and I want to be more mindful about spending.

Be better organized I keep busy with lots of different things in my life and when everything is full steam I get a bit scattered. I also can loose site of the big picture and that’s when things get out of balance. I am trying a Passion Planner this year to keep everything in one place and to make sure I’m spending my time well.

Write more: I don’t just mean blogging, I used to do more freelance writing and last year felt very blocked. I want to work on more pieces that mean something to me and send them out into the world.

Those are my larger focuses for the year which are playing out in some smaller projects, but more on that in the future. What are you concentrating on this year?